When someone you love is going through the pain of losing a mother, it can be hard to know what words might express your sympathy. But finding an appropriate gift to show how much you care may also be as important in conveying your condolences and understanding. Giving a heartfelt memento to serve as a reminder of such a wonderful woman may help honor your dear one’s mom and provide comfort during these tough times. So, let’s look at some suitable memorial presents or condolence donations that could say, “I’m thinking of you.”
Unique Sympathy Gifts To Remember a Lost Mother
Experiencing the loss of a mother is terribly challenging for that person and everyone around them. Coping with grief can be very difficult – whether it’s your feelings or someone else’s. Finding the right words to express sympathy and understanding in such trying moments can often be complicated, leaving many people unsure how best to demonstrate their support. Offering condolence gifts as an expression of love and caring might be one meaningful gesture where you could show your consideration now.
When showing sympathy for the loss of a mother, sometimes traditional gifts don’t seem enough.
When it comes to expressing condolences, sympathy card ideas are often the first choice for those who may feel unsure about what to do or say. However, it is important to note that pre-written cards can sometimes come across as impersonal and obligatory, ultimately ending up discarded at some point.
I remember looking at sympathy cards and “sorry for your loss texts” when my mother died. They seemed so impersonal and shallow. I craved depth and meaning when nothing made sense. I felt the same way about gift baskets. While I know the gifters meant well, grief is a fickle thing, and I realized the more personal the gift, the better.
There’s something special about personalized condolence gifts that can make memories and honor her, like a photo album or scrapbook filled with pictures of the beloved mom, maybe next to written memories from the past. It could be an incredibly meaningful gift they will cherish forever – giving them ever-lasting reminders of fond times spent together.
If you’ve got digital pictures, why not turn them into an album full of great memories? You could even have it printed as a physical book from places like Shutterfly.
If no photographs are available, try to reminisce about her personally with someone who knew her and turn the stories into a memorial book. Hearing old stories and understanding more about her life and personality might offer some solace during these trying times.
Memorial jewelry with a comforting quote or symbol connected to your beloved one’s mother can be powerful tokens of remembrance – something they can keep close by at all times as a reminder of her life and legacy.
Creative Ways To Show Sympathy for a Grieving Family
Looking for something more creative? Consider homemade gifts.
Some of my favorite gifts came from my mom before she died: a hand-crocheted baby blanket and watercolor paintings of a dragonfly and sunflower. Those meant more to me than the items she had acquired before passing. Talking with my sister, we love handmade things. Nothing is more meaningful than creating something from your heart to give to someone else.
Do you quilt? Did the mom use handkerchiefs? Sew them together into a memorable blanket. If she didn't use handkerchiefs, then pick up some fabric featuring her favorite colors and designs and piece them together in a memorial quilt. Or crochet or knit an afghan using her favorite colors. A handmade memorial blanket (whether a quilt or afghan) could be a comforting and thoughtful way to provide warmth to the grieving person. Especially if you attach a meaningful message to the blanket.
Did the mom love to spend time cooking and baking in the kitchen? Make a memorial apron.
My mom passed away a few hours before my sister walked down the aisle, becoming a wife. During her outdoor wedding, a dragonfly graced the wedding with its presence for the entire duration. Dragonflies were our mom's favorite, so having one buzzing around her was very meaningful to my sister. Living 1,400 miles away from my sister, I knew I couldn't be there in person to comfort her through her bereavement process, and creating beautiful things is very therapeutic for me. So I searched for a simple project I could enjoy working on to honor my mom and have something to send to my sister, and I found this adorable dragonfly cross-stitch quilt kit to create using my sister's favorite colors. I couldn't be there to hug her, but she could wrap up in a handmade cozy throw blanket.
Remembering my mom, I also created a quilt for myself using the Comfort of Psalms fabric as quilt blocks my kids picked out and gifted me with. My mom taught me to sew when I was 7, so sewing in her memory brought back much-needed happy memories and helped me create similar memories with my kids.
Every funeral service seems to come with a plethora of flowers. A unique gift could include helping your friend or loved one preserve the flowers and arrange them in a keepsake shadowbox. Whether you preserve the flowers in resin or dry them with silica and frame them, they make a meaningful gift presented in a unique way.
Of course, there are many other thoughtful and practical gifts you could make or provide that aren't necessarily bereavement-specific but would still be heartfelt to receive.
Practical Gift Ideas to Honor and Memorialize a Beloved Mother
A meaningful gift is often the first thing that comes to mind, especially for special occasions like birthdays, Mother’s Day, or anniversaries. However, finding the perfect gift to pay tribute during bereavement could prove challenging. Sympathy gifts commemorating an adored mom should have both substance and emotion behind them… but they don't always have to be physical gifts. Everyone endures the grieving process differently, but everyone could use an extra layer of support.
Providing a service is a wonderful way to provide a thoughtful gift. There are several ways to provide something a bereaved family needs:
- hire a weekly cleaning service for the first month or two
- order a weekly meal delivery service for the first month
- Personally deliver a homecooked meal
- hire a dog walking service for the first couple of weeks
- take time off to spend with them to be there as a friend
- take walks together, allowing your friend or loved one the space to talk
- go with your friends or loved ones to the places their mom loved the most
Timeless Sympathy Gift Ideas for Those Who Lost Their Mothers
A way of showing sympathy through gifting is to provide something that will assist the person who received it to recall their mom positively. I loved journaling through all the mixed emotions and thoughts that came from a complicated relationship with my mom. This journal, Remembering My Mom, is fantastic in helping your loved ones find those memories of their mom and write them down before forgetting. It's perfect to look back on later to help unlock old memories.
Did the mom love gardens? Gifting a customizable garden stone is a meaningful way to memorialize a home garden surrounded by her favorite plants. There are many beautiful garden stones to consider. Not all of them are customizable, but they are thoughtful sympathy gifts that bring in some beauty with a special message. Are you looking for something different than a garden stone? What about a decorative garden pole, fun personalized memorial wind chimes, or an adorable customized birdfeeder? Another idea to remember a gardening enthusiast is to send something like locally produced honey products, seed packets, handmade ceramic planters, garden tools, and books full of helpful gardening advice. I know I was very excited to receive the books my mom read that helped her in the garden, knowing that is where her knowledge largely came from, especially in moments when I want to call her, but she isn't there.
Whether or not your grieving friend or family member has a garden or not, a memorial garden bench would make a wonderful gift for them to place on a porch, balcony, yard, local park, or even somewhere inside the home. I love using these as a plant holder for some of my mom's old plants.
Mourning Dove Grief Therapy Subscription Box offers a 1, 3, 6, or 12-month subscription plan that offers research-based meaningful gifts and grieving exercises. They serve as simple sympathy gift baskets if you're too busy or not very creative to make your own.
Create a homemade recipe book using the mom's favorite hand-written recipes. Scan in her recipe cards and memorialize them in a book.
Did the mom love butterflies? Using this butterfly lamp is a beautiful way to remember her.
Another way is to keep them close with memorial jewelry like necklaces engraved with their late mom’s name or birthstone.
Memorial keepsakes such as photo frames, glass paperweights, and mugs make for thoughtful gifts, too; these little tokens may bring some smiles even through the sadness.
Gift baskets are also popular choices: filling one with comforting, healthy snacks will remind the receiver that life still has its simple joys, even through loss.
Flowers often have special meaning during moments of grief and sorrow. White roses traditionally symbolize innocence and purity, while forget-me-nots represent remembrance and true love. A beautiful basket with fragrant fresh flowers in bright colors coupled with her favorite treats or food items could be a real pick-me-up surprise!
The written word can also say so much. I truly love the book “Life After Losing A Loved One: How To Turn Grief Into Hope, Strength, and Purpose” by Kristina Risinger. Kristina is a close friend of mine who lost her daughter at a young age. While her personal experience involves navigating child loss as a mother, her book is beautifully crafted to help anyone through the grief process. I've gifted it to my Mother-In-Law and friends after they lost parents and spouses, hearing rave reviews on how much the thoughtful words in the book helped. I've also read it myself a few times after losing my mom and can honestly say it is worth picking up.
Meaningful Sympathy Gifts That Express Heartfelt Sorrow
It’s important to ensure that whatever you choose is appropriate and welcome during such a difficult time. A meaningful sympathy gift will express your heartfelt sorrow over someone so close to being lost forever. However, it's important not to focus on money when selecting bereavement gifts; it’s all about showing you care and empathizing emotionally with what they’re going through.
At times like these, deciding which is the best gift in this bleak situation may not be easy. Those affected by bereavement highly value thoughtful presents that honor their loved one's memory. The right gift needs to be as special and personalized as the individual it memorializes.
In conclusion, sympathy gifts like memorials and condolence presents are a great way to offer your support for the passing of someone’s mother. Whether it is something that honors her life or just an honest card, showing others who are grieving that you care about them can go a long way in making sure they don’t feel alone in their grief. What would she have wanted those mourning her death to know? How much difference could your gesture of kindness make at this particularly tough time?
This article was originally produced and syndicated by Motherhood Truth